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I went through this with my Xwife.
She stopped wanting, I stopped asking, she went elsewhere, we got a divorce, we both cracked up, we both got counselling, I got engaged to a different woman, XW moved in with her new man.
We're all happy now.
Wouldn't recommend it, but it came about because we were unable to communicate well, and I now realise we were never able to, but it took 15years togeter to fully realise that.
As ratbastid says (i think) you can't make change go away, and sometimes embracing change that seems at face value to be painful can lead to a better future.
For myself I am now calmer, happier, and nicer (i'm told) than I've been for decades.
Here's my mantra:
There are two types of problems in the world: things you can fix - so fix them and quit bitchin', and things you can't fix - so let them be, and quit bitchin'.
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Overhead, the Albatross hangs motionless upon the air,
And deep beneath the rolling waves,
In labyrinths of Coral Caves,
The Echo of a distant time
Comes willowing across the sand;
And everthing is Green and Submarine
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