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Originally Posted by ScottKuma
(I'm hurt/confused right now, but that doesn't change the fact that I love her).
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One thing that would probably help is to write off the hurt. Sometimes those things that scratch and claw at us are the things we cling to most tightly because we don't know any other way. So, forget any notion that she is hurting you, intentionally or otherwise. I know it seems absurd to be told, "don't be hurt", but once you figure that out, you'll be able to work much more constructively on other problems.
Just because she's standoffish about counseling doesn't mean you need to be. You can go on your own. It won't be the solution you're looking for right now, but why not let a professional hear
your concerns and
your worries?
Your wife is probably drag ass tired, and she may be depressed. There's no sex while she's in that state. Short of smashing some prozac into her oatmeal, you can't do anything about that until she lets you. She's not doing anything to hurt you, she's doing what her brains tell her to do to survive.