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Originally Posted by maleficent
First off, have you been to a doctor for your weight? People who are overweight, would go to a doctor for advice when regular methods don't work, people who are underweight should do the same thing to rule out any medical issues that may be causing it.
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Very good advice.... Let the doctors take a good look and determine if there is a medical reason for your inability to gain weight. If there is, then possibly there can be something you can do about it. If there isn't, maybe there are still ways you can gain eventually. At your age lots of people have an extremely high metabolism rate, but for most it doesn't take very many years for their metabolism to slow down...
Regardless of what you weigh, you're ok the way you are. You say your teachers think you are very smart, and people you talk to say you have a good personality when you let it show. Well, judging from that alone, you have two traits that a LOT of people don't. I'd say you have a lot to be thankful for, even though at this rough point in your life it may not seem like it to you. I don't even know you, but I would hate to see you give up and check out. That's not the answer. Maybe if you surrounded yourself with positive people, it might help you see more of what your teachers do, and those that have already commented on your good personality.
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Originally Posted by maleficent
...and to put a really mean spin on it (because I can be really catty sometimes)- -when you go back for your 20th reunion, all successful and such because you're smart... you will be slim and trim, and all those imbeciles who made fun of you will be sporting beer guts that they can't get rid of... 
Don't ever forget that it's what is on the inside that counts, and people who make fun of others, are generally pretty insecure people... you don't need them in your life. |
...and speaking of reunions. I have gone to my 10th, 15th, and 20th high school reunions (that's all I can go to - I started but never finished college)...and have watched as the majority of my classmates are getting heavier and heavier, and for the men the hair is getting thinner and thinner - bald for many already.
and what maleficent said.... people who poke fun at others, are usually insecure. That's why they run others down to make them feel better about themselves. You don't need negative, insecure people in your life.... nobody does actually. Try changing things up a little, and don't worry about being socially awkward.. Hell, I'll be 41 in a couple months and I am STILL that way. I can handle a tank full of convicts and get them to do what I want.... but put me into a social situation, and I am the guy hanging out by the punchbowl and food table.
You'll be alright if you stick with it man. It'll get better... You did the right thing by talking to somebody - even if it's people you don't know.
One thing I might add is that I would do as Rodney suggested, seek some counseling services at your college, or elsewhere. They know how to put you in contact with people who can help you. You've came this far, and done well... invest a little more in yourself, and it will pay off in the long run. I was contemplating suicide a year and a half ago myself, after a very hard breakup with my ex-wife. Seeking counseling was the last thing I wanted to do, but I decided to try it. In a few short months I not only stopped thinking about suicide, but I came away from those sessions knowing myself a lot better, and most importantly, liking myself again.
Good luck to you my friend..... stick with it, and if ever I can be of any assistance, feel free to ask.
