Poppinjay

From Schwan "They're together for some time now and will probably get married soon. Another friendship dead."


There was some reality show, I forget which, I think I saw it on "The Soup" on E!, where a guy on the show found out his GF cheated on him, or that she was on the show and cheated, I forget which. But he acted like a total baby.

Before I finish, I've been on that side. I acted like a twit, and after standing thunderstruck in the grocery, I picked my ego off the floor and learned something.

Never before has there been a better case of, "he who cares the least, wins." And its ugly cousin, "he who puts his total all into a potential mate, loses."

Soma, if you run into the girl, there are two good ways to treat this.

1st, you can still scam on her. Act like you're trying to steal her away. Not because you deeply care, but because you want her like you want a new iPod, or hot car ie: a possesion. If you actually care is beside the point. Say, "you with (friend) now, or do you still want to hang out sometime?" But not in a Napoleon Dynamite kind of way.

2nd, take the position, "I'm done with you." She is a guy to you from now on. If you think there might have been a spark, just think of her as Joe from the Tower Records who has some interesting things to say, but not much else to offer. Be friendly. Smile. But she is Joe, now.

And before any of the charming and intelligent women of TFP flame me, you don't know what this is like. It's a guy thing. By the way, you look beautiful today? Have you lost weight? Black is your color!

He. Who. Cares. The. Least. WINS.