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A bird in hand is worth two on the wing.
If] he loves the girl he's with, is that really worth breaking up what he has for a chance?
I don't believe in hollywood. These chances don't necessarily work out and he could end up kicking himself in the ass. If he's not in love with Jen she deserves better than to be deceived, but if he is in love with her than he should stay with her.
Part of his problem may be an inability to recognize that it's entirely possible to be in love and committed to one individual and attracted to another. I tease my girlfriend about her crushes and she does the same. My finding someone attractive (or her for that matter) doesn't have an impact on our relationship because we both recognize it for what it is. It's superficial; I may be in love but my heart's still beating which means other girls will occasionally catch my eye. That doesn't mean I don't find her attractive and it doesn't mean that I don't love her.
I've explained it as best I can. I've seen people of either sex have issues because they're unable to reconcile an attraction to another person with being in love with someone else. I'm not saying this is the case, but it may be worth pointing out to Jim. Ask him if he truly thinks he's in love with Mary or if it's just 'cuz she's hot and point out that it's normal to have those little crushes. Then ask him if he's in love with Jen and if he is if it's worth throwing that away for this new girl.
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I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept
I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said
- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame
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