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Originally Posted by ngdawg
There might very well be a hotness factor he is reacting to. Only he knows for sure. Maybe the best way to know is to bide his time. It's only been a couple of weeks. Best analogy I could give is like having an older dog(sorry) and you see a really cute puppy. The dog is tailored to you, been around a while etc...but oh, how cute that puppy is!!! Those eyes, that new puppy smell...must...have....
A chance at 'truer love'? There's no way to know, hence it is a chance. He should get to know Mary a while longer at a friendship level. Is he questioning his love for Jen or just having new feelings on top of them? How long have they been together? Can she still excite him?
There can be more than one true love in a lifetime. But only he would be able to answer 'how much is he willing to risk', for he may very well end up with nothing.
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Puppy breath is awesome. lol
Anyway, i totally agree. He needs to just cool his jets a little. Attractions come and go, and this one may go after the initial infatuation has cleared... if he does still really love her, then he needs to act like it and let life play itself out. If he's truly "meant" for the other girl, they will naturally develop a deep friendship that may turn into more. Infatuations come and go, and they can mimic the feelings of love really, really well... but real love doesn't just flow like a river, it's a special thing between two people.
Also, since they're practically engaged but for a lack of funds, he's also got to keep in mind that if he had just enough money, they'd be engaged or married- and then he'd be thinking about leaving a fiancee or wife. Does that mean more to him? I'd think it should.