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Originally Posted by Seeker
I'm thinking that not trying to fulfill your needs emotionally by another is a good thing?
To me, and I have had this experience, this can be an excellent arrangement. I wouldn't call it "fuckbuddy" as to be having any sort of relationship with someone else in this capacity means there must be some admiration/respect between the couple involved... or maybe that's just me *shrugs*
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I have had this type of "arrangement" too. I've been burned one too many times, and this sort of arrangment works great for me. It gives a lot of freedom for both to pursue their own activities, career goals, etc. The last time I had a relationship like this we only slept with each other, and respected each other's privacy and space. We spent on average 2-3 nights together a week, and occasionally a weekend together. Our circle of friends included both our families, and many people we worked with and associated with on a regular basis. We had a mutual admiration and a certain level of "feelings" for each other as well. One thing I liked about our "arrangement" too was the fact that we never took each other for granted. Unfortunately one or the other ends up wanting more, which is what happened in our case. She wanted more, but I couldn't and wouldn't commit any further. I wasn't happy about having to let her go, but that's the way it goes sometimes. We parted as friends, and still see each other around town occasionally. We even sat together outside Starbucks and had coffee one night. Not everything has to end badly.