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Originally Posted by pigglet
1. When you say friend, how close are y'all? Your "friend" didn't seem to think much about it...are you certain it was a serious date, or that he perceived that you were seriously interested in her?
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I met him last semester in the dorms and had a few classes with him. We got along fairly well.
I thought it was a serious date, but I clearly was mistaken. I don't feel as if my friend even began to consider how I felt about this girl before doing what he did. This experience has made me realize that the friendship I had with him really was an abusive one. I never felt like I got much respect from him, but just continued to hang out with him. I don't know why I feel so comfortable around people who treat me like dirt...
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Originally Posted by pigglet
2. I wouldn't necessarily write the girl out. How well does she know you, him, etc? If they just hung out somewhere, it might not be a huge deal. Guy calls her, asks if she wants to do [x], she's bored, etc.
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She knows him better. I was more or less a stranger, but they didn't have a serious history with each other.
But I'm at a point now where the girl is completely out of the picture. I don't care a whole lot what she does now, and you all have made me realize that calling her would probably only make things worse. But the main issue is dealing with this friend of mine. like I said earlier, the more I think about it, the more I see how unhealthy my friendship with him was. Changing my class schedule is sounding like a better idea the more I think about it. I really don't want to deal with him anymore.
Thoughts? Anyone have advice on breaking off a friendship with an unkind and (dare I say) abusive person?