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Originally Posted by genuinegirly
Oh, and if you think you're communicating and you still feel this way... YOU'RE NOT! Keep working at it.
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or, the other person simply doesn't care.
i'm not saying it's the majority--and you should do everything possible to make sure it's not a lack of communication. but there are some people in that boat, their partner simply doesn't care.
i tried everything with my ex--hinting, making lists, begging, ignoring it too, complaining, etc. discussion after discussion after yelling match, it made no difference. nothing worked. using laundry for example, i'd ask him to do it and he'd say ok. wouldn't get done. i'd tell him again and explain the amount of clean clothes left, he'd say ok he'll do it. wouldn't get done. i'd leave notes around the house--wouldn't get done. it would escalate to a fight, we'd get through it and he'd say he'd do it. wouldn't get done. finally, i'd break down and do
my laundry. he would continue to wear dirty clothes rather than do the laundry.
it wasn't a matter of him not realizing it needed to be done. and since his only responsibility was the house, it's not like he had more pressing matters to attend to (we had no kids).
i know not every situation is that extreme--but it does happen. my current partner has no problems helping me out when asked.