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Acetylene · 09-01-2005, 04:14 AM

OK guys, lots of jumping to conclusions here.

A lot of girls (and I mean EVERYONE I know) think their high school boyfriend is GOD and can do no wrong. If he doesn't dump them, they will follow him around for years. This can lead to an engagement, often without the boy really knowing what's going on or wanting more than just free sex. I know because this is EXACTLY what happened to me.

It takes meeting someone who actually deserves their time and attention before these girls will realize their infallible boyfriend is actually an immature dickweed, and then they will willingly break it off with him, EVEN IF they aren't sure they would get to date the new guy. If there's one awesome guy out there, surely there are more! I know this, too, because the exact same thing happened to me.

If this aforementioned girl has really never been single, and now a whole world of potentially awesome men has been revealed to her, DUH, she's going to want to check them out! She may even smile at them. But you can't call her "a cheater" for her behavior in this one, very specialized situation.

You also can't condemn her for something she said while drunk, particularly when she is annying outspoken even while sober, because this may be the first the idea occurred to her-"I love this guy, he is so hot, he would be worth messing around with even if he didn't like me back" becomes "I would have slept with you anyway." Attempted complement backfires.

As for finding aspects of her annoying, well, welcome to the end of the honeymoon. When the initial rush wears off, you start to notice the drawbacks in your relationship. This is inevitable and the real questions is not "Is she annoying" but "Do the good bits outweigh the bad ones?"

I guess the main thing I'm saying is, I stayed with a total ass for 5 years out of sheer pigheaded loyalty. Then I finally dumped him for Kel. Does that make me a cheater? Or does it make me a girl who finally wised up and recognized an ass for what he was--and a rockin awesome guy for what HE was?

09-01-2005, 04:14 AM	#6 (permalink)
Acetylene Addict Location: under a rock	OK guys, lots of jumping to conclusions here. A lot of girls (and I mean EVERYONE I know) think their high school boyfriend is GOD and can do no wrong. If he doesn't dump them, they will follow him around for years. This can lead to an engagement, often without the boy really knowing what's going on or wanting more than just free sex. I know because this is EXACTLY what happened to me. It takes meeting someone who actually deserves their time and attention before these girls will realize their infallible boyfriend is actually an immature dickweed, and then they will willingly break it off with him, EVEN IF they aren't sure they would get to date the new guy. If there's one awesome guy out there, surely there are more! I know this, too, because the exact same thing happened to me. If this aforementioned girl has really never been single, and now a whole world of potentially awesome men has been revealed to her, DUH, she's going to want to check them out! She may even smile at them. But you can't call her "a cheater" for her behavior in this one, very specialized situation. You also can't condemn her for something she said while drunk, particularly when she is annying outspoken even while sober, because this may be the first the idea occurred to her-"I love this guy, he is so hot, he would be worth messing around with even if he didn't like me back" becomes "I would have slept with you anyway." Attempted complement backfires. As for finding aspects of her annoying, well, welcome to the end of the honeymoon. When the initial rush wears off, you start to notice the drawbacks in your relationship. This is inevitable and the real questions is not "Is she annoying" but "Do the good bits outweigh the bad ones?" I guess the main thing I'm saying is, I stayed with a total ass for 5 years out of sheer pigheaded loyalty. Then I finally dumped him for Kel. Does that make me a cheater? Or does it make me a girl who finally wised up and recognized an ass for what he was--and a rockin awesome guy for what HE was? __________________ There's no justice. There's just us.