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Zar · 08-31-2005, 08:42 PM

So I've never really posted on here before, but I'm facing something of a conundrum at the moment, and I figured I might as well get all your input.

I've been seeing a girl for about 5 months now. I met her at my college last semester. The beginnings of our relationship were somewhat tumultuous; she was engaged to a guy I'd known since my freshman year, and I sort of swept her off her feet and she ended that. (I guess some more background info is pertinent here: she got engaged in high school. Right now I'm 22, and she's about to turn 20) She's my first serious relationship - she was the first I told that I loved. We clicked pretty well immediately, and we were both quite smitten with one another. Things continued to progress fairly well over the summer, we visited each other almost every weekend. We've even discussed getting an apartment together sometime, although nothing concrete there. However, there are now some problems that I foresee.

1. As I've gotten to know her more, some aspects of her personality are quite annoying. Whatever pops into her head pops out of her mouth, leading to numerous awkward situations. I've dealt with this with aplomb thus far, but it gets tiresome sometimes.

2. I am having some trust issues. She has told me before (while drunk), that if I had not wanted to be her boyfriend, she still would have messed around with me while staying with her ex-fiancee.

3. I unfortunately do not attend the same school as her this semester, due to some unfortunate circumstances. Long distance is a bitch.

2 and 3 lead into 4... I've been talking with her online lately. She's at school, I'm at home. She's telling me about guys giving her flirtatious smiles, and her smiling back. I am trying not to be an overly jealous, protective boyfriend, but everything else and this is driving me kind of bonkers.

I would want more than anything to make this relationship work, but I don't want to set myself up to be a sucker either. She really is the first girl I've felt at all compatible with, and I'm afraid to give up on it. I'm supposed to go see her at school tomorrow for the weekend, and I'm not really sure what's up. Any input?

08-31-2005, 08:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
Zar Tilted Location: St. Louis	Relationship Confusion So I've never really posted on here before, but I'm facing something of a conundrum at the moment, and I figured I might as well get all your input. I've been seeing a girl for about 5 months now. I met her at my college last semester. The beginnings of our relationship were somewhat tumultuous; she was engaged to a guy I'd known since my freshman year, and I sort of swept her off her feet and she ended that. (I guess some more background info is pertinent here: she got engaged in high school. Right now I'm 22, and she's about to turn 20) She's my first serious relationship - she was the first I told that I loved. We clicked pretty well immediately, and we were both quite smitten with one another. Things continued to progress fairly well over the summer, we visited each other almost every weekend. We've even discussed getting an apartment together sometime, although nothing concrete there. However, there are now some problems that I foresee. 1. As I've gotten to know her more, some aspects of her personality are quite annoying. Whatever pops into her head pops out of her mouth, leading to numerous awkward situations. I've dealt with this with aplomb thus far, but it gets tiresome sometimes. 2. I am having some trust issues. She has told me before (while drunk), that if I had not wanted to be her boyfriend, she still would have messed around with me while staying with her ex-fiancee. 3. I unfortunately do not attend the same school as her this semester, due to some unfortunate circumstances. Long distance is a bitch. 2 and 3 lead into 4... I've been talking with her online lately. She's at school, I'm at home. She's telling me about guys giving her flirtatious smiles, and her smiling back. I am trying not to be an overly jealous, protective boyfriend, but everything else and this is driving me kind of bonkers. I would want more than anything to make this relationship work, but I don't want to set myself up to be a sucker either. She really is the first girl I've felt at all compatible with, and I'm afraid to give up on it. I'm supposed to go see her at school tomorrow for the weekend, and I'm not really sure what's up. Any input?