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raeanna74 · 08-24-2005, 06:15 PM

Yes kids cost a lot initially (I think our hospital bill was around 8,000 for the c-section but thankfully we had lots of health insurance) and they grow out of clothes so fast that you can't imagine having to buy new shoes only 2 months after buying a previous pair but yet you find yourself doing it.

There are many unexpected ways of saving money.
You would be surprised what the difference in cost is between going out for one meal each day of the week opposed to packing a lunch and fixing meals from scratch at home. Even the prepared foods cost signifantly more than it would be to make something from scratch.
I work from home doing childcare for other parents. When I have all the possible kids that I'm allowed, I can actually make more than hubby does at his decently paying job. I am still at home and NOT paying out half of my paycheck for childcare.
We do not give our daughter allowance at least not yet and will not unless she does EXTRA jobs. An allowance won't be given for simply doing her responsibility.
We do not buy brand name clothes unless we find them for a very good price. I frequently shop at thrift stores. I would like to think that I am a savy thrift store shopper because I cannot recall one criticism of our clothes but plenty of compliments.

There are so many other things that we probably would do differently without a child's added cost. I must admit though that if I were given the choice I would not go back to not having a child.

It is RUDE for anyone to suggest that you need a child. Especially if you are not ready for it. It would not hurt to even tell them outright that you feel they are being rude when they say such things. Hubby and I are content with one child and have decided to make that a permanant decision. We have gotten a few questions about it but once we were firm about our decision we have not recieved any more complaints. It's your life - do what is right for you.

08-24-2005, 06:15 PM	#21 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	Yes kids cost a lot initially (I think our hospital bill was around 8,000 for the c-section but thankfully we had lots of health insurance) and they grow out of clothes so fast that you can't imagine having to buy new shoes only 2 months after buying a previous pair but yet you find yourself doing it. There are many unexpected ways of saving money. You would be surprised what the difference in cost is between going out for one meal each day of the week opposed to packing a lunch and fixing meals from scratch at home. Even the prepared foods cost signifantly more than it would be to make something from scratch. I work from home doing childcare for other parents. When I have all the possible kids that I'm allowed, I can actually make more than hubby does at his decently paying job. I am still at home and NOT paying out half of my paycheck for childcare. We do not give our daughter allowance at least not yet and will not unless she does EXTRA jobs. An allowance won't be given for simply doing her responsibility. We do not buy brand name clothes unless we find them for a very good price. I frequently shop at thrift stores. I would like to think that I am a savy thrift store shopper because I cannot recall one criticism of our clothes but plenty of compliments. There are so many other things that we probably would do differently without a child's added cost. I must admit though that if I were given the choice I would not go back to not having a child. It is RUDE for anyone to suggest that you need a child. Especially if you are not ready for it. It would not hurt to even tell them outright that you feel they are being rude when they say such things. Hubby and I are content with one child and have decided to make that a permanant decision. We have gotten a few questions about it but once we were firm about our decision we have not recieved any more complaints. It's your life - do what is right for you. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.