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Originally Posted by maleficent
i would consider it different than mistrust or jealousy. both mistrust and jealousy are pretty superficial emotions, tempation gets to the core of a person's character. It's like saying, i trust you completely, but why would you put yourself in a position that could quite possibly lead to trouble.
when people cheat, with few exceptions, it's not something that they intended to go out and do, it just happened they gave into temptation.
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Yep, I totally understand where this girl is coming from, because I used to think that way too. I spent 10 years as an evangelical, and it has taken YEARS to get it out from under my skin. Will she change? Maybe. I have, slowly. Should you date her expecting her to change? For your own health, I say no. But that's your own decision.
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Originally Posted by martinguerre
as far as temptation goes...i think the key to it is having some level of self-knowledge. If being in a situation is too much, and will likely cause problems, especially if it's caused problems in the past...that's temptation.
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There's a lot of truth here. Can you convince her that you are above temptation? (Should you need to?) Personally, I think that if you've been living with this girl for two years, you're already above suspicion. If you just suddenly moved in with someone, and you had a history with the other girl, then there's reason for your gf to be hesitant. But to me, it sounds like she has her own baggage attached to this stuff, and that she has a different understanding of temptation than you do. Which is problematic.
/hopes something was helpful there...
