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Yeah, break-ups suck, no doubt about it. Especially when there's something that will tie you two together. After you take a while to take care of yourself emotionally, you need to work out with her (if you haven't already) what your relationship with your child will be. Custody? Visitation? Child support? Any contact at all?
Probably the best thing is to talk to a lawyer and write up a child custody agreement, saying who gets what, when, etc. You may think you two can just work it out verbally between yourselves, like reasonable adults, but what about 10 years from now? Of course, lawyers ain't cheap. :-/
Oh, and one small nit with your post - and I don't mean this in a nasty way, so I hope it doesn't sound like that: You aren't the second most affected person here...you're number 3. A few moments of thought should make that clear.
So, anyway, right now, take care of yourself. There'll be time to worry about other things later. But don't just assume that she'll be willing or cooperative with a certain level of involvement and commitment to the child (I'm not sure whether you want 'none at all', or...?). Talk to her about it, then get it in writing.
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