ARGH. I just had a whole reply typed up and I hit the middle mouse button on accident, which I've got set to close windows and poof. GONE.
Lets see. First of all, thanks to everyone for your insightful advice! It is definetly helping sort out my thoughts.
The general theme I see here is it's about communication. I must say that is more or less the conclusion I came too as well when I was typing the above posts. It's just going to require more talk.
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Originally Posted by Maleficent
(It honestly sounds like you really don't care so much about your living situation - it's just convenient right now... and when the opportunity presents itself financially and time wise, you'd move in a heartbeat)
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While I'll say yes I'd move fairly easily, I want to clarify it's not so much to appease this girl as it would be just for a change in my life. I've lived with this girl for over 2 years now, and it'll be 3 before we move out, but frankly I'd welcome a change. We generally get along, but as time has gone on we sort of have gone our seperate ways and live kind of different lives now.
MooseMan is correct in saying that she's not jealous. That was admittidly the conclusion I wanted to jump too as well when I first found out she disapproved, however after our first long talk about it, it seemed that was not so much the case. She was more along the lines of she just doesn't think (morally I guess?) that a male and female should live together, even on just friendly terms, excepting if they're married. I would guess you are also correct in saying that she's just going to have to deal with it. It's most definitely not going to change until I finish school next May.
I guess there's not much to do except try to talk to her about it again. Like I said before, she generally just likes to avoid topics like that and tries to ignore things that bother her rather than discussing them, but I don't want it to fester and come out in a much worse way later.
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Originally Posted by MooseMan3000
It doesn't matter what her opinions are; if you can't listen to hers, or if she can't listen to yours, it can't work.
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This is good advice. I'm a firm believer in everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I sure don't like it if they try to shove their opinion down my throat. I guess her not liking my living situation I can deal with, but if she told me I had to move, then to the headsman I say.
Anyways keep the thoughts and opinions coming, it's really helping.