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maleficent · 08-21-2005, 05:00 PM

You're still at the beginning of this relationship, if your living situation is a deal breaker, better to find out now.

Ok, so it's been three months with her, I'm going to nicely ask (in a very nonbusybody sort of way) if she's having sex with you yet, or anything beyond a chaste kiss on the cheek. is that behavior morally acceptable to her.

If the answer is yes, then it's a little hypocritical of her to say that you're living situation is wrong.

If there was a third person living there, would that still be wrong to her?

You can't change a person's values, you can only work within them, as long as they are consistent, the question for yourself is, can you live with the values as they are.

08-21-2005, 05:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	You're still at the beginning of this relationship, if your living situation is a deal breaker, better to find out now. Ok, so it's been three months with her, I'm going to nicely ask (in a very nonbusybody sort of way) if she's having sex with you yet, or anything beyond a chaste kiss on the cheek. is that behavior morally acceptable to her. If the answer is yes, then it's a little hypocritical of her to say that you're living situation is wrong. If there was a third person living there, would that still be wrong to her? You can't change a person's values, you can only work within them, as long as they are consistent, the question for yourself is, can you live with the values as they are. __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.