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while i agree that both people take some responsibility in this issue--sometimes, one person just won't listen.
this was one of many issues in my marriage. in the beginning, we both had jobs and shared household responsibilities. he quit working and we agreed he'd take on the house while i worked. after a while, he quit doing anything. i worked, i took care of the house and i took care of him. that gets real old real fast. granted, my situation was extreme--but he wasn't open to any type of communication. seeing me do it was fine, having it not done was fine. the man simply didn't care. for those like me, being married to such a person is impossible. he wanted a wife like his mother (sahm who took care of the house) but also wanted a "modern" wife who served as the primary wage-earner. and while i could do it all (and plenty of women do) at some point, you do get sick of it. marriage is a partnership and you need to be giving just as much as you are taking. if i had wanted to do it all myself, i would have had a child, not gotten married.
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