maleficent

Sage has some very wise words...

a very similar discussion has been had before, i' m just too lazy to search for it. Some of the men, who are veterens of marraige. had some good answers as to why they didnt always help.

1. They just don't see it or frankly don't care...
2. Nagging = the adults talking in charlie brown. Quickest way to get a man to not listen is to nag him or use the really lame - I've told you this a million times (are you his mother or a spouse)
3 Some of you sound like perfectionists... if the husband were to do something, what would you do if it were not done to your standards? Bitch about it and do it yourself anyhow... you've now just given the guy the reason why he didn't need to do it to begin with.

Is the world going to stop spinning on it's access if the counter doesn't get wiped down every day? Probably not.

If the husband does do a chore say thank you, and that's it, A little appreciation goes a long way.

Sounds like that's what you ladies want as well.

BUT... and a good friend of mine does this and I will smack her whenever she does... Don't play the martyr, which is what Raenna seems to be falling into.... She had to scrounge to get a 13 dollar hair cut, when DEI can buy pretty much whatever he wants... Give yourselves both an allowance and stick to it -- seperate from the household budget and you can do whatever you want to with that money. If you want something, get it...

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