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I think a lot of women end up feeling that way. I know I used to. There were things that were just "my" domain - like laundry, cleaning, shopping, remembering both families' birthdays and taking care of presents, etc. When ratbastid saw how unfair he was being he changed his behavior but it took years of arguments before he admitted how sneaky he was about avoiding work, and before I lessened up on what I expected. It became such an issue that, for me, it was no longer about the actual tasks that needed doing but about his love for me, so even though it wasn't really a big deal that he'd do the dishes but then not wipe up the counter, I'd turn it into a huge fight. Now I just remind him to wipe the dang counter when he's done. Anyhow, going on strike is probably a good idea, but this is also something that needs to be communicated about becuase it's such a big part of your life. One of you needs to change your behavior or your expectations if it's not going to be an annoyance forever.
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