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pan6467 · 08-18-2005, 06:21 AM

IT was interesting, we had 15 questions we had to answer and we answered simultaneously and in very clear voices, the first 14, and as we were sitting across from each other I could see her answering the questions.

The 15th question was "do either of you wish to delay today's preceedings and seek marriage counselling?"

Well, she had come to pick me up and before we left I told her I had problems answering that question under oath because I wasn't sure I didn't want counselling. (I did this to offer her an out and just to make sure in my mind this is what she truly wanted.)

She threw a hissy and I smiled getting the answer I wanted and said, "Ok now I can answer that question in court and I have truly done everything I possibly can to save this, I have a 100% clear conscience and can move on knowing that I did my best."

She was very silent and wiped a tear away.

When the 15th question came up, her lips did not move and she did not answer, I answered very clearly "Nope".

On the ride home I told her I found it ironic she didn't answer the question after she had thrown such a hissy to make sure I answered it.

She said she did answer it and that the magistrate wouldn't have continued had she not answered.

I told her her mouth didn't move and I didn't hear her answer it. I also stated that since only her attorney was present and with her filing for the action plus the proceedings being so routine, the Magistrate probably didn't even think about it.

She was silent. I told her that this was it and I think she will regret this terribly. Me, it's over, today is a day for mourning and reflection and tomorrow is a day of new beginnings.

She on the other hand says she wants to stay in touch and see me often and that she wants me to be a part of her life.

I smile as I type this because I truly believe the one who will regret this and who regrets this the most even now is her.

08-18-2005, 06:21 AM	#8 (permalink)
pan6467 Lennonite Priest Location: Mansfield, Ohio USA	IT was interesting, we had 15 questions we had to answer and we answered simultaneously and in very clear voices, the first 14, and as we were sitting across from each other I could see her answering the questions. The 15th question was "do either of you wish to delay today's preceedings and seek marriage counselling?" Well, she had come to pick me up and before we left I told her I had problems answering that question under oath because I wasn't sure I didn't want counselling. (I did this to offer her an out and just to make sure in my mind this is what she truly wanted.) She threw a hissy and I smiled getting the answer I wanted and said, "Ok now I can answer that question in court and I have truly done everything I possibly can to save this, I have a 100% clear conscience and can move on knowing that I did my best." She was very silent and wiped a tear away. When the 15th question came up, her lips did not move and she did not answer, I answered very clearly "Nope". On the ride home I told her I found it ironic she didn't answer the question after she had thrown such a hissy to make sure I answered it. She said she did answer it and that the magistrate wouldn't have continued had she not answered. I told her her mouth didn't move and I didn't hear her answer it. I also stated that since only her attorney was present and with her filing for the action plus the proceedings being so routine, the Magistrate probably didn't even think about it. She was silent. I told her that this was it and I think she will regret this terribly. Me, it's over, today is a day for mourning and reflection and tomorrow is a day of new beginnings. She on the other hand says she wants to stay in touch and see me often and that she wants me to be a part of her life. I smile as I type this because I truly believe the one who will regret this and who regrets this the most even now is her. __________________ I just love people who use the excuse "I use/do this because I LOVE the feeling/joy/happiness it brings me" and expect you to be ok with that as you watch them destroy their life blindly following. My response is, "I like to put forks in an eletrical socket, just LOVE that feeling, can't ever get enough of it, so will you let me put this copper fork in that electric socket?"