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sexymama · 08-17-2005, 07:17 PM

analog -- I don't "poke around" in my daughter's privates. She, however, has chosen to tell me she is growing hair. I think the fact that we are very open with her (she attended the birth of baby brother 11 weeks ago, she has seen me change my pads, etc.) helps her feel comfortable sharing.

Recently a good friend (and mother of a 12-year-old) and I read "The Red Tent." That has inspired us to create a celebration over our girls "coming of age." When they each start their periods they will have a weekend devoted to them. During that time we will create a ceremony to honor the young woman. Some of our thoughts are to do a make over and buy a "grown up" outfit. Dad will take her out on a date in order to model what a good date should be like. We may change the bedroom from a "little girl's room" to a "young adult room." And, of course, we will do some spiritual celebration as well.

In addition, we have read that in other cultures having a period is celebrated. (It is not the curse) As a result of the celebration, there is much less cramping, etc. (Of course, I believe it is also a result of better eating habits as well.) We plan to make having a period a very positive thing. But don't worry, we'll also be up front about cramps, etc. A-matter-of-fact, the only thing that took away my cramps when I was younger was a small glass of wine. That may be part of the celebration!

I hope this helps.

08-17-2005, 07:17 PM	#23 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	analog -- I don't "poke around" in my daughter's privates. She, however, has chosen to tell me she is growing hair. I think the fact that we are very open with her (she attended the birth of baby brother 11 weeks ago, she has seen me change my pads, etc.) helps her feel comfortable sharing. Recently a good friend (and mother of a 12-year-old) and I read "The Red Tent." That has inspired us to create a celebration over our girls "coming of age." When they each start their periods they will have a weekend devoted to them. During that time we will create a ceremony to honor the young woman. Some of our thoughts are to do a make over and buy a "grown up" outfit. Dad will take her out on a date in order to model what a good date should be like. We may change the bedroom from a "little girl's room" to a "young adult room." And, of course, we will do some spiritual celebration as well. In addition, we have read that in other cultures having a period is celebrated. (It is not the curse) As a result of the celebration, there is much less cramping, etc. (Of course, I believe it is also a result of better eating habits as well.) We plan to make having a period a very positive thing. But don't worry, we'll also be up front about cramps, etc. A-matter-of-fact, the only thing that took away my cramps when I was younger was a small glass of wine. That may be part of the celebration! I hope this helps. __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.