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Old 08-17-2005, 01:21 PM   #1 (permalink)
J-Dubs
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Being Straightforward

First off I created a thread a month or so back in regards to someone (a girl) I have known for over a few years.

Bascially I told said girl I really liked her and would like to basically take this to the next level. I got shut down, but it wasn't a bad thing at the time I thought I still had a shot. She made it seem like when the time was ready she'd like to give it a shot. She said she wasn't emotionally or mentally ready for relationship at this time due to a couple bad breakups in the past year (which I could understand). Physically she was more than ready...?????????

Anyway at the time I told her I liked her and got shut down. I asked her to let me know if I was in the friend zone (at this point from what she said I had a hunch I might be but I kept my hopes up) from the get go this way I don't have to ride a fine line trying to still be her friend and still persuing her to let her know I was still interested. If I was in the friend zone, I could easily move on and continue to be friends, no biggie. But if I wasn't in the friend zone, this would keep my hopes up and I could cross that line a bit to let her know.

Well a few months down the road and after helping her through a string issues and bad luck situations she had. I'm begining to think I am in the friend zone now. I mentioned a couple times to her to let me know if I was in the friend zone. I thought she would, since I believe she was more straight forward than most girls and she said she always seemed to be a straight forward person.

Well, I'm kind of frustrated, mad, upset and what not. I've always seemed to be the one to initiate the calls, plans, etc.. a few times she has called, but when she needed something. I haven't called her for a few days, after usually talking everyday or everyother day. I'm waiting to see if she'll call. I figure if you liked someone or even thought more of them than you do you'd call to see what's up.

It pisses me off that women in general can never be straight forward with a guy in this type is similar situation. I've read it here, seen other guys I know go through it. Why do you string a guy along like this just let him know either way, yes you may hurt his emotions but you'll hurt him worse in the end if you drag him along. A guy will atleast let you know, it may be harsh at the time but there's no dancing around. Why do women do this?

Anyway what to do what to do.............?
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