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Originally Posted by pan6467
but it is impossible not to have baggage and to be going through a seperation/divorce and not have issues that affect the other person (whether consciously or sub).
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true. but when is the last time you met
anyone who didn't have issues that impacted the person they were in a relationship with? that's the nature of relationships--what influences my life, also influeces my partner's life. we all have baggage, you just have to find someone who's personal baggage is not more than you are willing to deal with.
not saying there aren't issues she'll need to work through on her own as a result of her divorce--just that she may already have done that. i was finished with that well before my divorce was final. hell, i'd done much of it before the decision to divorce was final.
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they never leave and just play head games, and keep you dangling for their own amusement.
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definitely brings to mind that the games would not only be intentional, but she'd find pleasure in it as well. i realize it is from your personal experience--which is why when commenting on your post, i asked where this came from in regards to the op. you were dating women who were in the process of deciding to divorce their husbands or not. the op said the woman he's seeing has already made that decision and is in the process of divorce. you've already acknowledged the two aren't the same, i just wanted to clarify why i thought your first post seemed to be out in left field somewhere
