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Back in my addiction days, I dated married women (seperated, living together 'but only because of the kids" ... etc) pretty much exclusively and years into recovery looking back I realized I did this because I didn't have to look at how fucked up my own life was.
If she pointed out, I gambled too much, or had problems with this or that or couldn't hold a job...... i coul yell back at how she was a slut cheating on her husband, or the fact she was a bad mommy because she was over here fucking me and leaving her kids with someone else....... etc.
Make sure you are not seeing her for those reasons or similar ones. Make sure you know how you feel about her and if she feels and is willing to do what is needed to be with you, then great...... if not get out of the relationship.
Believe it or not dating married women sucks with the self esteem/ego and jealousy issues abound.
I'm sure she's a great woman, but right now, she's messed up in the head and you don't need that in your life right now, because 99% of the time (just as married men do to their "other woman") they never leave and just play head games, and keep you dangling for their own amusement.
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I just love people who use the excuse "I use/do this because I LOVE the feeling/joy/happiness it brings me" and expect you to be ok with that as you watch them destroy their life blindly following. My response is, "I like to put forks in an eletrical socket, just LOVE that feeling, can't ever get enough of it, so will you let me put this copper fork in that electric socket?"
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