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Okay I knew that I'd probably get some things confused when typing this yesterday. What I meant by the comment of trust and alcohol and my fiance, was that I trust him, I know he wouldn't do anything, but when alcohol becomes present he gets either really distant, or really horny, it depends on his mood. While I don't think he would do anything with her while drunk, I don't trust her not to try to start something while drunk and I really don't want to have to face a situation like that. Neither of us drink much at all, and I trust him with out doubt around alcohol and naked women.
The main issue of all this is rooted in the fact that during the few weeks we did break up after dating the first time for a few months, he did hook up with someone else, and also with her. At the time this hurt me and I had thought we worked all this out when we got back together. Ezpecially that I had gotten over it. After all we weren't that serious at the time, but several months later became serious. I can honestly say that I have no problem with him and any other person regardless of circumstance, or sex, or whatever, except her. And ever since we fought about this last Friday I've been thinking that maybe we do need to postpone the wedding for a while. I would really hate to do that. I keep thinking about all the people and all the time and money put into this so far. We haven't had the invitations printed yet, that is happening this week. And we haven't made any final payments on the church, hall, or caterer yet. But then I think about why I'm feeling this way and I realize that I do need to trust him completely not 95%.
I guess I just needed to hear it from someone else. I am going to talk to him tonight and I am thinking about asking a third party who isn't involved with all this to be there as a counselor. I guess I'll see where this is going to go.
Thank you for reading all this. And for the advice.
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Cain: I know what you're doing. I've lead troops into battle before.
DG: And, how am I doing?
Cain: Well, there's less *hugging* when I do it
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