Sage

"I trust my fiance but that might get shaky with the alcohol and her hanging all over him"

Alright, red flag. You trust your fiancee but only while he's sober and supervised. If he's left alone while drinking and has a girl he's got a history with, he might do something "bad." How much do you trust your fiancee? This statement sounds like not very much at all, and that's not a good way to go into a marriage.

Girl, I'm going to say this based off of what you wrote- I really feel like you two aren't quite ready to get married yet. It sounds like you have some communication problems that need to be ironed out BEFORE you get married. I know you have probably talked about things before, but there's a HUGE difference between talking and communicating. If money is tight, the bills are late, the rent is late, your fiancee has no buisness going off for the weekend spending money unless it's HIS money that he earned. Not joint money, HIS money.

Being married is all about responsibility, trust, and communication with your partner. It sounds like he's not acting responsibily (spending money when you don't seem to have much extra, backing out on being with you this weekend to go be with a girl he KNOWS you have a problem with), he's not being trustworthy (at least in your head- see quote above), and you two are DEFINITELY not communicating (he still hangs out with this girl, he's spending money when it's tight, he doesn't seem to fully understand how you feel) I would highly highly highly suggest you look into pre-marital counseling, either at college or through a church, or perhaps a community center. If you don't establish how you both feel and what's going on between you BEFORE you get married it is a hell of a lot harder to do it after- because if you find out you're really not compatible, you have to shell out a lot of money to amend your earlier decision.

I also don't agree with "well, she's his friend, you have no buisness telling him what to do." If he loves you, and I mean "forsaking all others" loves you, he'd not be haning around this skank that keeps coming between you, he wouldn't be letting her hang all over him, and he would be telling her to back the f*** off! He is disrespecting you and your relationship by interacting with this girl. This is an issue that you need to deal with RIGHT NOW- that's why I said go to pre-marital counseling, because you will have someone there who can help you two COMMUNICATE, not just talk or yell.

Perhaps I'm being cynical, but there's red flags all over your post. Good luck.

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