Originally Posted by BugLover

My husband and I haven't had sex at all this year, and we only got married last year. We're not young (late 30s), but certainly not in our dotage, either. At first, I tried initiating but was told he couldn't perform under pressure. I tried talking to him because I was concerned it could be medical, but I know he looks at porn and is aroused by it (which never bothered me). I used to find him irresistable but after nearly 8 months of physical rejection, I just don't have that spark for him like I did. He's really sweet in other ways, but without feeling like he's interested in me physically I just don't know what kind of future we have.