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You don't have to be her dad. You don't have to deal with anything she does that isn't directly affecting you. You can do something about this pretty quickly if you just say something to her directly about what IS affecting you, but you have to be clear and honest about it - no mincing words or hinting or "testing" her with generalizations. If you seek the answers by disrespecting her that way, you have no reason to expect respectful or honest answers. You are older and it's your job to lead by example. (That still doesn't make you her dad.)
From what I understand, she needs to be told that (1) any stupid decisions she makes are hers alone to deal with; (2) you are not trying to stop her from doing what she wants, but trying to make sure that what she does isn't going to negatively impact your family; and (3) behaving like a disrespectful little shit and leaving your parent in the dark about her whereabouts is negatively impacting your family. The bottom line is that she's a minor and your mom is legally responsible for her. So far, it sounds like that's the only thing she has managed to turn into your problem because it's making you sit here and wonder if you need to take away privileges.
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