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Originally Posted by la petite moi
Cross-over, most PARENTS knock before entering rooms, and typically have control (limited or all) over computer/internet privileges. The fact that he even controls anything in her life shows that he is taking a "parenting" role, which is not his duty.
Obviously he has good intentions. He doesn't want his sister getting into things, and getting hurt. But he needs to step back, and help his sister as a BROTHER. As I'm sure most know, as a teen, it seems really hard to communicate with the "all-knowing" parents. If your brother acts all-knowing and like a parent, you can bet his sister is not going to open up to him and tell him what's wrong/ask for advice/tell him her problems.
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It didn't seem like he was asking for advice on how to get her to open up/ask whats wrong/ask for advice/tell him her problems. He said it himself; he doesn't give a shit if she is out all night smoking pot or doing whatever. From the thread title and from his description, it is a lack of respect that a minor has in a parental household (one where the only parent has little control) that is the problem. Don't get me wrong, I slacked in school and hung out with an "unfavorable" crowd in my early teenage years, while my older brother was an excellent student on the straight and narrow. He often came down hard on me, despite me having two parents who were capable themselves. I did resent his actions at the time, but his actions also kept me from doing shit I shouldn't have because I knew I had a more observant and knowledgeable eye watching me.