In reading what you've written, it honestly doesn't sound any different that how I acted when I was at that impossible age of 15. I have never touched a drug in my life, but some of my friends were stoners, because they were fun people -guilt by association doesnt make them guilty. if my "nerdy" brother called my friends losers, I'd be pretty pissed too. I don't think I came out of my room more than 4 or 5 times during my 15th and 16th years, I wasn't doing anything bad in there, except avoiding my family.
When I did come out, I'd hear about my 'loser' friends, and why I didn't act like my 'perfect' sister. Why I had so much attitude.. blah blah blah... No one ever bothered to talk to me, they made assumptions and yelled based on those assumptions.
She might be doing drugs, she might just be a pretty normal angsty, misunderstood teenager.
You are her brother, not her parent or her keeper. Conspire with her-- and don't yell, be the person she could come to if she needs it. Suggest to her nicely that mom would get off her back if she just had the courtesy to call when she was going to be late...
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