My god, these are amazing suggestions. Seaver, yours caught my eye first, but a lot of you seem to be damn good masseuses in hiding. Thanks for all the tips!! Ktspktsp and I will take note...
From my experience, all I can say is: take it warm, deep, and slow. (Hmm, that could be applied to other things...
) The essential thing is attentive touching... being aware of every contact point between you and the other person, and how both of you are reacting to that lingering touch. Mmm this is making me want a massage...