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Originally Posted by pan6467
I've tried that and it always ends with her crying and telling me how much she needs me in her life as a friend. Truth be known, as a friend I like having her in my life. However, as lovers we are just not compatible and neither of us share the same goals in life.
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She is just scared that you will be gone if you move on. She needs reassurance that you are there for her even though you are not together, and unfortunately she will not be reassured until you have proven that you can maintain the friendship with her whilst you are getting on with your life.
It is just a new aspect to your relationship with her, and she holds fear for this change. I would ask her straight out, does she think she has made a mistake? and would she prefer that you sit around in misery while she gets on with her life? She may not even realise why she is feeling this way. By working these questions out with her it may help her to feel a little more assured with the new direction in your relationship (from love to friendship).