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Jimellow · 08-03-2005, 08:58 PM

I think you should ask yourself if you are prepared to lose this girl as a friend if the serious relationship doesn't work out. All relationships don't end well, and there is no guarantee that you will be able to remain friends with this girl after taking it to the next level.

Also, I would make sure you really want to risk it. By that I mean, are you sure you want to seriously date this girl? As close friends, people generally find out a lot about one another, and that provides an opportunity to find things that are attractive, but also things that are a turn off.

Being close friends with someone allows you to get a more complete view of what you are potentially getting into if you opt for a relationship, and I think you should take advantage of that ability. I've noticed that my own desires in a long term relationship are greatly influenced by close female friends I have; both good and bad.

I tend to be against turning friendships into serious relationships, because I think close friendships become "boring" in the sense that we know each other too well already, and are content being friends. I also don't consider it worth the risk of losing a close friend, unless I am almost certain that the person is the type I want to spend the rest of my life with.

In a sense, you are getting a head start by seriously dating a close friend, but you are also potentially risking being friends at all if things don't work out.

I would just ask yourself how it would be different if you were dating seriously, and if realistically, you consider it to be worth it. It's a decision you have to make, because you are the one experiencing the feelings you are. If you try it and fail, you might kick yourself, but at least you won't have regrets or doubts about what could have transpired the rest of your life.

08-03-2005, 08:58 PM	#5 (permalink)
Jimellow Junkie	I think you should ask yourself if you are prepared to lose this girl as a friend if the serious relationship doesn't work out. All relationships don't end well, and there is no guarantee that you will be able to remain friends with this girl after taking it to the next level. Also, I would make sure you really want to risk it. By that I mean, are you sure you want to seriously date this girl? As close friends, people generally find out a lot about one another, and that provides an opportunity to find things that are attractive, but also things that are a turn off. Being close friends with someone allows you to get a more complete view of what you are potentially getting into if you opt for a relationship, and I think you should take advantage of that ability. I've noticed that my own desires in a long term relationship are greatly influenced by close female friends I have; both good and bad. I tend to be against turning friendships into serious relationships, because I think close friendships become "boring" in the sense that we know each other too well already, and are content being friends. I also don't consider it worth the risk of losing a close friend, unless I am almost certain that the person is the type I want to spend the rest of my life with. In a sense, you are getting a head start by seriously dating a close friend, but you are also potentially risking being friends at all if things don't work out. I would just ask yourself how it would be different if you were dating seriously, and if realistically, you consider it to be worth it. It's a decision you have to make, because you are the one experiencing the feelings you are. If you try it and fail, you might kick yourself, but at least you won't have regrets or doubts about what could have transpired the rest of your life. __________________ Desperation is no excuse for lowering one's standards.