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Originally Posted by uptown
If you had to take oral steroids you most likely had a medical problem that curtailed or severely limitede your options for exercise. I've been there and it isn't fun.You didn't gain weight because you got piggish at the fridge or let yourself go on purpose.
What happens the next time you have a medical problem that causes an alteration in your appearance? When he gets "pissed off" about something else you're arguing about will your physical flaws again be fair game ?
I wouldn't worry about getting "total honesty" from this guy it sounds like he's got no problem letting you know you aren't perfect.The big question is, how will you feel down the road if you have a kid with him and your stomach comes out of it scarred and marked? God forbid what if you end up with a c-section,how will you feel when you're getting stuff thrown in your face that you couldn't prevent or can't easily remedy ?
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Sounds like someone has a cross to bear here. If saying something stupid about your SO's appearance were as horrible as you seem to think it is, my guess is there would be very few people out there with SO's. My wife got semi-fat for a while, lost much of it, got pregnant and now is trying to get back into shape (and is just about there). There were times when I pointed it out to her, and sometimes in a not-nice way if she were eating things she knew she shouldn’t. Guess what, we are still quite happy together and will have been together 15 years in exactly one month.
Part of a successful long term relationship is having a thick skin at times. Your SO just may say something hurtful, stupid, shallow, mean, etc, and rather than flying off half-cocked and extrapolating it to worst case scenarios try to gain a sense of perspective and decide if its worth ending a relationship over something petty.