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I think there is a right way and a wrong way to suggest that someone is getting fat.
The wrong way, would be to say, "Honey, boy, you are getting fat."
The right way, " ".
In other words, there is no right way. The key is to know your audience. If you know your wife/SO well enough that they will be able to take some critisim or suggestion, go for it. You should also know if saying something is going to hurt them. It's just part of they give and take that goes into any relationship.
My wife, hates... no HATES her belly. It was once flat and taut. It now bears the stretchmarks of two children. She has lost the tone she once had. Occasionally she wants me to admit that I don't like it either... I see no upside to say, "I wish you had your old stomach"...
If I wanted my wife to have the belly of a 20-year-old I would leave my current wife and marry a woman aged 20 years...
While I can appreciate the asthetics of a taut stomach I also know that I love my wife for more than just the shell that encases her.
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