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Originally Posted by Ramallah
Soon after, I realized that I had made a mistake by telling her that I didn't want anything serious.
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If that's really how you felt, then you shouldn't feel guilty about saying so. There's nothing rude about telling someone you don't want to get serious. Most people are actually appreciative. This girl has you all twisted around and second-guessing yourself, and that's no good. And she sounds a little immature and unpredictable, to boot.
You
cannot hold yourself responsible for someone else's reaction to a clear and reasonable statement (that you did not want to get serious). I had a roommate who would get personally offended if I absent-mindedly left a bag of chips on the kitchen counter, no matter how many times I patiently explained that sometimes I forget to put the bag back. Some people are also easily offended, and others find their bearings in life according to who they're in conflict with and to what degree.
Most girls see a relationship as a series of potential stepping stones towards marriage, in my experience. Meanwhile, a guy might just want a companion of the opposite sex with exclusive priveleges. To explain this division is to delve into psychology and philosophy, so I'll just say that the definition of "commitment" usually differs according to which gender is being asked to define it; for a guy, he can love the shit out of a girl but not want to marry... and a woman might not be able to achieve that level of affection
until the man has committed to marriage.
That's usually why we don't get along
