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A massage is almost purely mental, not so much physical action.
Items:
First off gentile music, I perfer jazz (look up Coltrain - Too Young to Go Steady).
Candles, 2-3 I suggest, keep it intimate. Too many is distracting
Massage oils are a must. I love Jasmine/Vanilla (Bath and Body Works, red bottle)
What to do:
First off you start with a nice long bubble bath. Once again use 2-3 candles, let her talk about her day and get everything off her mind. With the music in the background she usually wont talk long, as she will relax greatly. Do this until she is very relaxed.
Then, set up the scene while she's in the bath. She stays in so she doesnt get cold, tightens the muscles which you dont want. Lay a towel on the floor where there's enough room, set a candle low on one side, high on the other (if you pay attention she'll stare into the lower candle's light, and close her eyes as she truely relaxes.
When you're ready, have two towels for her. One for the floor (no cold feet), and with the other you slowly dry her off. After she's dried, wrap her in the towel to keep warm and give her a long, passionate kiss. Lead her to your spot and lay her down.
Now have her lay on her stomach on the floor (beds cause her back to bow, which can get uncomfterble) on the towel. When using massage oils you dont pour it on her, but in your hands. You rub them in your hands to warm them up.
From here there's many massaging techniques for differing purposes. Since you cant explain it, I suggest looking it up online (they'll have pics). What I DO suggest, is you use long-motion massages. The difference is quick-motions envigorate and long motion relax (since you're not warming her up for a marathon, you want her to relax).
Hope this helps you out, if you need anymore info you can PM me. Doing this has saved me from many fumbles in relationships, and makes existing ones that much better.
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