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Some very good advice here from others...here is my two cents...
Live life without regret. That is fast becoming my mantra. Live your life without regrets.
Write your guts out in a letter - tell him the pain you have felt from the day after the divorce until now.
From what you wrote - it sounds like you want a relationship with him and you want him to be part of your life...say so in the letter. He may be yearning to say the same, but, as with many men, there may be too much pride to say so.
Try not to be defensive or thorny in the letter - don't put him on guard. Pointing a finger at him and blaming him is not going to help build that bridge. What happened in the past - happened. Don't gamble a relationship with your father over whether he fesses up to his mistakes - because he probably won't - the pride thing again.
If the emotional plea doesn't work - you will know for sure that he has a black heart and you don't need somebody like that in your life.
I am all for taking action though. This is a very important relationship and it is worth a shot. If the worst happens, the pain of rejection will pass. Just don't handle it in such a way that leaves you wondering, "what if" or "if only..."
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Maybe it was over when she chucked me out the Rover at full speed.
Maybe Maybe...
~a-Ha
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