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I had a falling out with my family around the age of 22. It wasn't my dad, but everyone on my mom's side of the family. I got accused of many things: stealing, lying, etc. I cut them out of my life and had to listen to my mom pleading with me to make things right. I told her that I would not put up with a friend who treated me like that. I find that blood relations can be hard to end because everyone will make you feel guilty. Well, after about 2 years of therapy, many rants in my journal, and arguments with my mom, I finally came to terms with the situation. It wasn't all my fault and it wasn't all their fault, but it was definitely an unhealthy relationship.
Anyway, about 4 years later, we moved to Chicago (about 10 hours away). That seemed to snap them out of whatever their problem was. They call me now every week and we are on better terms. I am not as close to them as I used to be, but we are on my terms now.
My advice to you would be to write a nasty letter. You don't need to send it, but it makes you feel really good. If you are unhappy in the relationship, just let it go. It may come back and it may not, but you have to be happy with your choice and not listen to anyone else's opinion about the matter. They don't have your brain or your heart so they don't know what you are feeling. I wish you the best of luck! Also, never count out therapy. It is not a sign of weakness and it helped me sort out my feelings to someone who was not involved in the situation.
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