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Slimming Issues Upside Down - What would you do?
It's such a PC world nowadays that sometimes it's like everybody is wonderful and perfect. Coming from another thread on women and weight issues, what do you do when it's the other way round? Ok, all the men now say oh we don't care so much if our girls are a little soft round the edges, they always look good to us yadda yadda. That's not always the case. So let's be realistic.
If your SO, who you love to bits, and who loves you too, suddenly tells you that you are sometimes unattractive to him because you've got a slight belly and aren't as toned as you could be? And what if you (in my case I'm a girl) actually think you're not unattractive at all, and ok you could tone up a little but it's really not that bad? What do you do then? How do you feel?
Ok, you can put it down to the guy being a bit immature about this, but he says he's just being honest, and if you're in your 20's, why wouldn't you want to look your best, before you grow older and saggier and less firm? Seize the moment sort of thing. You can talk to him and tell him off for being blunt and "too truthful" with you. But that doesn't solve the problem.
So supposing that I don't want to break up over something like this, because ok we can all start shouting about our rights and respect and all that but a real relationship is made of compromise. If you had invested as long and as hard into something like I have done, how would you react?
And yes this is my situation right now, as you have guessed. I'm just a little confused and don't know how to feel, but I know I don't want to leave and I know I can do something to change the situation (and am doing right now), but how do you forgive or overcome someone you love telling you this? How do you return to "normalcy"?
That's what I meant about being so PC...the world isn't all rosy coloured all the time...let's be honest.
Let me know what you think.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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