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Originally Posted by JinnKai
If your advances are refused at any point, you are not making "unwanted advances" and there are "unheeded declines." In doing so, you've created the "hostile environment" specified in the act, and are guilty of sexual harassment. THAT is why courting is gone.
Unfortunately, it almost has to be this way, or men could defend legitimate sexual harassment with the excuse of "courting."
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Why all this legalistic argument? If you're even a half-way sensitive individual and there's mutual respect between the parties, you'll know the difference between "no, but by all means try harder" and "no, i really want you to stop this". And there are ways of suggesting you're still interested other than simply repeating the words "will you go out with me?" ad nauseum.
Personally I'm probably oversensitive to a 'no' and have too much pride to keep trying, but it depends entirely on the manner of the rebuff and how much I feel I'm being pissed around. I have in the past given girls more than one chance. In the case of a particularly hot babe I allowed myself to be stood up three times before I pulled the plug for good.
I seriously doubt that there really was a golden age of courting, and would bet that it's largely a myth from film and literature.