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"Sexual harassment" has to do with specific situations, like at work. You might be thinking of "stalking". Believe it or not, it's possible to keep after a woman after she turns you down w/o having to worry about either of these. It's a matter of persistance and technique.
For instance, Once Upon a Time, there was this coed I was going to school with. Bright, pretty, bright. Did I say she was bright? Well, she was. Anyway, she was the kind with a cloud of guys around her. I was more persistant than any of them, and had classes with her at times. We'd sit together. I'd call her on the phone. After around 15 months of this, I'd convinced her I was interested for real, that I was a real person, and she wanted to continue.
Harassment? Nope. Sometimes, a person just takes a while to warm to you, or vis versa.
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Harassment? Yep. Did she press charges? Nope. That's the difference -- if she really wants to, she can sue you for it.
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Any unwanted attention of a sexual nature. Sexual harassment can include (but is not limited to) physical abuse such as unwanted touching, pinching or cornering; verbal abuse such as suggestive or sexist remarks, propositions or lewd comments; demands for sexual favours; and sexual assault. Although offenders often try to excuse their behaviour as "joking" or "flirting", the harassment is no less real to the victim.
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After she's said "no", further advances are now "unwanted" under the legal letter of the law. If a girl says "no", I'm not going to waste my time pursuing it.. ESPECIALLY if I can get in legal trouble for doing so.
"Behaviors such as sexual joking and commentary, touching, or requests for dates.."
Sexual Harassment.
"a man putting his arm on a woman or patting her on the shoulder"
Sexual Harassment.
If your advances are refused at any point, you are not making "unwanted advances" and there are "unheeded declines." In doing so, you've created the "hostile environment" specified in the act, and are guilty of sexual harassment. THAT is why courting is gone.
Unfortunately, it almost
has to be this way, or men could defend legitimate sexual harassment with the excuse of "courting."