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Lurkette has some excellent advice there.
When I first read what you wrote, I remembered all too well my first experiences with sex. I thought "oh crud, this is bad. she needs to run away from this loser." But then I re-read it and I realized that you put the little disclaimer that he's not always this much of a jerk.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your needs, ask him about his... work on finding those little quirks that turn him on - like licking his ear or gently rubbing the small of his back. It's the little things that make the biggest difference. Most importantly, focus, both of you, on relaxing - and finding ways to relax one another. No one is going to orgasm if there is tension.
oh, and just as a heads up... be ready for him to walk out on you again.
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"violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy
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