I’m the guy that broke up with Sugar&Spice…
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Originally Posted by Sweetpea
breakups are always incredibly diffuclt. i'm sorry
You are both young and it sounds like he is in a different place in his life than you are and probably cannot handle a true serious committment.
Do move on and start dating again, keep things light with him when you see him, but chances are, with a little time, you'll probably see that you've outgrown him.
If he isn't ready to commit, there's nothing anyone can do to change that, not even himself, it seems he's just not on that path And you'll certainly be better off without him. Cherish the relationship you had with him and learn from it, but give your heart a chance to mend and move on.
My heart goes out to you Also, take this time to focus on yourself and start thinking about what you want out of life and what path you wish to take. And pamper yourself too!
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All true.
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Originally Posted by Robaggio
I'd say the best remedy is to keep busy. But really, I think that being busy ends up being a distraction at best :/ Things will come full circle eventually. Don't forget to smile!
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This would help, but I think it would be counter productive in the end.
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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
and sometimes that is the right course of action, because you are too emotionally attached to it to make a rational decision. It took me 3 years of drinking and debauchery until I was finally really able to deal with the issue without the emotions welling up inside and overtaking all rational thoughts.
you'll properly deal with it when you are emotionally ready to do so.
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I’m convinced no amount of advice can really remedy a situation like this, and that people will have to learn to fix things their own way. I’m just trying not to screw with her emotions any further.
PS. Debauchery - Extreme indulgence in sensual pleasures; dissipation (maybe take it down a notch or two, but not the worst way to get over someone) I think drinking is dangerous if you’re sad as it turns into an escape I don’t think she’d have a problem with that, but I should be noted.
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Originally Posted by ryborg
Beware of "I don't care." I believe that accepting your pain and letting it surface makes it heal faster than burring it behind apathy and never truely resolving it.
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I agree
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Originally Posted by Bill O'Rights
I can't even begin to describe, to you, the value of the statement that Minx has made above. I could've, and should've written it, verbatum,... myself.
Whereas you will be "making love"...he will just be "gettin' some". That ain't a fair trade. Now, don't get me wrong. There's nothing wrong with a "friends with benefits" situation. I've been in a few myself. But...we were both just "gettin' some".
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I’m all but convinced this is a bad idea, she’s good looking and amazing at sex, but I think that kind of intimacy would make this much harder on the poor girl.
Cliffs: Quoting a few of the posts that I thought were good. She’s bound to go through a hard time with this, and I’m trying to make it easier by not sending conflicting messages and screw around with her head more than i already have, she’s strong and will be fine however, I’ll probably see her again in a month and I don’t think that will be enough time for her as it sure as hell wasn’t enough for me the first time I got my heart stepped on.