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Shizukana · 07-25-2005, 12:23 AM

Thanks for the input, folks... I have opted to let it blow over a bit. She is thinking about not drinking at all anymore, or at least for a little bit, or maybe only on special occasions and what not. We talked, and she knows that I feel very strongly about it... my stepmom is an alcoholic and most of my family, including myself and my girlfriend, can't stand her... so she knows and has known that I have a very short fuse about people not being able to control their drinking. Hopefully, things will get themselves worked out, but if they don't, she knows that this isn't a relationship that I will continue.

mal - They didn't have the sense to call... which was another reason I was a little more pissed off. The bar actually wouldn't let them leave, her friend was going to drive home and only called me after our friends that work up there wouldn't let them go, and told them they were going to call me to pick them up. I totally agree that being drunk is no excuse for ANYTHING other than a fun time or a hangover, and her and I are both on the same page there.

As far as the question of whether or not I'm getting what I need out of this relationship - That's a good question, and another thing I had to think about when this situation came up. We've broken up twice over the course of the five or so years we've been together, and not being happy or feeling taken for granted has been the reason both times. I was definately in love with her, I'm not always sure if I am currently, but I do love her and care for her a lot, and sometimes I wonder if there's anyone else out there that could love me like she does. She gives, but you're right - I have to think about whether she takes more than she gives. Part of it is comfort too, as it's hard to think about leaving someone you've been with for so long. Any ideas there?

Jose - Nice catch! The name can mean quiet, calm, or tranquil, or a combination of the three.

Thanks!

07-25-2005, 12:23 AM	#9 (permalink)
Shizukana Insane Location: Plano, TX	Thanks for the input, folks... I have opted to let it blow over a bit. She is thinking about not drinking at all anymore, or at least for a little bit, or maybe only on special occasions and what not. We talked, and she knows that I feel very strongly about it... my stepmom is an alcoholic and most of my family, including myself and my girlfriend, can't stand her... so she knows and has known that I have a very short fuse about people not being able to control their drinking. Hopefully, things will get themselves worked out, but if they don't, she knows that this isn't a relationship that I will continue. mal - They didn't have the sense to call... which was another reason I was a little more pissed off. The bar actually wouldn't let them leave, her friend was going to drive home and only called me after our friends that work up there wouldn't let them go, and told them they were going to call me to pick them up. I totally agree that being drunk is no excuse for ANYTHING other than a fun time or a hangover, and her and I are both on the same page there. As far as the question of whether or not I'm getting what I need out of this relationship - That's a good question, and another thing I had to think about when this situation came up. We've broken up twice over the course of the five or so years we've been together, and not being happy or feeling taken for granted has been the reason both times. I was definately in love with her, I'm not always sure if I am currently, but I do love her and care for her a lot, and sometimes I wonder if there's anyone else out there that could love me like she does. She gives, but you're right - I have to think about whether she takes more than she gives. Part of it is comfort too, as it's hard to think about leaving someone you've been with for so long. Any ideas there? Jose - Nice catch! The name can mean quiet, calm, or tranquil, or a combination of the three. Thanks! __________________ "The power of accurate observation is frequently called cynicism by those who don't have it." - George Bernard Shaw