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mr_manwhore · 07-24-2005, 09:43 AM

Contrary to what others who have replied to this thread have said, my advice to you is to NOT tell this girl "HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HER". I know you're thinking how could this possibly be a good advice when it goes against logic; you tell the girl you have feelings for her and logically if she feels the same she will tell you. Make sense?

The problem is that when you are involved romantically with women what is logical doesn't work. I am sure that you personally know of situations where a girl dumps the nice guys waiting to date her but instead she dates the abusive jerk/bad boy who won't treat her half as well as the nice guy. Maybe you've even been the nice guy youself. You've probably also heard women tell you that they want a guy that's sensitive, who's in touch with his emotions. But when a nice, sensitive, emotional guy shows up they run in the other direction. What is going on here?

The reason is that sexual attraction isn't a choice. It's not a choice that one makes logically. This would take a long time to explain which I will not do right now.

I'm quite sure that this girl WANTS to feel attracted to you, and I also want to give you the best possible advice to what really will create that magical emotion called 'sexual attraction'. If you fail at creating attraction with this girl she will be disappointed, but not so that she will get together with a guy that she does not feel attracted to.

What you need do to create attraction right now: Stop seeing this girl every day, once or twice a week is enough. Though this depends on what you really want, if you want a relationship then you could gradually increase it. But in the beginning, keep it to twice a week max. Always be a little bit unavailable and do things with her ON YOUR OWN TERMS.

Don't do the typical dinner date YET. This not only creates an awkward situation for 2 people but sends the wrong message. Also no flowers, gifts, or notes. You do not want to be the guy that has to buy women's attention with food, flowers, or gifts. It's bad for your wallet and you sex life.

Invite her to coffee or tea with nice stimulating conversation. It's simple, cheap, can be done in 30 minutes or less. If you're enjoy your time THEN go out and do something together. Mini golf, pool... etc. The point is do something together, not go on a typical 'date'.

Most importantly, when you're with her, tease and bust on her about something. IN A FUN WAY. Tease her about her intelligence, her beauty, anything. Remember to keep it light, and most importantly, FUNNY.

Now you have two choice as to what to do with this girl. Whether you take my advice or not I wish you the best outcome and don't forget to report back with what happens.

07-24-2005, 09:43 AM	#19 (permalink)
mr_manwhore Upright	important-STOP IMMEDIATELY Contrary to what others who have replied to this thread have said, my advice to you is to NOT tell this girl "HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HER". I know you're thinking how could this possibly be a good advice when it goes against logic; you tell the girl you have feelings for her and logically if she feels the same she will tell you. Make sense? The problem is that when you are involved romantically with women what is logical doesn't work. I am sure that you personally know of situations where a girl dumps the nice guys waiting to date her but instead she dates the abusive jerk/bad boy who won't treat her half as well as the nice guy. Maybe you've even been the nice guy youself. You've probably also heard women tell you that they want a guy that's sensitive, who's in touch with his emotions. But when a nice, sensitive, emotional guy shows up they run in the other direction. What is going on here? The reason is that sexual attraction isn't a choice. It's not a choice that one makes logically. This would take a long time to explain which I will not do right now. I'm quite sure that this girl WANTS to feel attracted to you, and I also want to give you the best possible advice to what really will create that magical emotion called 'sexual attraction'. If you fail at creating attraction with this girl she will be disappointed, but not so that she will get together with a guy that she does not feel attracted to. What you need do to create attraction right now: Stop seeing this girl every day, once or twice a week is enough. Though this depends on what you really want, if you want a relationship then you could gradually increase it. But in the beginning, keep it to twice a week max. Always be a little bit unavailable and do things with her ON YOUR OWN TERMS. Don't do the typical dinner date YET. This not only creates an awkward situation for 2 people but sends the wrong message. Also no flowers, gifts, or notes. You do not want to be the guy that has to buy women's attention with food, flowers, or gifts. It's bad for your wallet and you sex life. Invite her to coffee or tea with nice stimulating conversation. It's simple, cheap, can be done in 30 minutes or less. If you're enjoy your time THEN go out and do something together. Mini golf, pool... etc. The point is do something together, not go on a typical 'date'. Most importantly, when you're with her, tease and bust on her about something. IN A FUN WAY. Tease her about her intelligence, her beauty, anything. Remember to keep it light, and most importantly, FUNNY. Now you have two choice as to what to do with this girl. Whether you take my advice or not I wish you the best outcome and don't forget to report back with what happens.