Shizukana

Okay... bear with me here... but I come asking for opinions on what exactly this means.

The other night, I got simultaneous calls from my girlfriend's (of nearly 5 years) gay male friend and the bartender of the bar they went to, with whom I am also friends. The gay male friend, C, was drunk and asking me to come pick them up, and T, the bartender, was calling me to let me know that they needed to be picked up, because they wouldn't let them drive as inebriated as they were. I chose not to go with them to the bar because I had had a long several days at work and wanted to relax, and specifically didn't want to deal with them drinking/drunk.

At any rate, I go up there to pick them up and she's passed out on the patio, he's coming out of the restroom, and I hear from one of our other mutual friends at the bar that as they were drinking more and more, they started dancing (it was karaoke night) and grinding a bit or something, and she even said at one point, "See, he says he's gay, but he likes pussy. See?" and rubbed his hand over her (clothed) crotch. Keep in mind that while this was not witnessed first hand by ME, there is NO reason for me not to believe the person who told me this, who DID witness it.

Now, I am rather upset by multiple things. 1) The fact that they didn't leave themselves any designated driver or any other way to get home if they all got drunk; 2) the fact that, knowing said things, they chose to power-drink themselves into a stupor anyway, 3) that my girlfriend was soliciting an intimate act from a male other than myself, even though he is gay, 4) that she didn't remember, which leads me to wonder what else happens when they get drunk together that I don't know about, and 5) the fact that she power-drinks is limited but still recurring after she has said many times in the past that she was going to "slow down."

Now, a few opinion questions - Did she cheat on me? I am in the belief that technically, the answer is yes, and being drunk is no excuse for that, almost ever. Second, is this something I should seek to end the relationship over? I love her, but I'm really tired of feeling like her babysitter at times, having to monitor her because she doesn't think about things before she does them.

She says she's going to stop drinking, and wants help with that. She is sorry for what happened, and says nothing like that has ever happened before (with regards to the sexual aspect of it, however limited in nature.) Please know that I definately didn't mind coming to pick them up, as I'd much rather have picked them up than them driving and dying or getting seriously injured, but I'm still quite frustrated with the whole situation, you know?

I guess I'm not asking for advice, but more asking, "what would YOU do if you were given this situation?"

Thanks, everyone.

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