lasereth: i hope the slapping you refer to is more figurative than literal because i don't believe i made any hint at all that i slapped her. her ex, a close friend of hers, found out why she was lying and slapped her. i don't slap females especially.
to address your concerns, and i do appreciate you taking your time to respond, it's a 2-way thing. like i said, we were so close that the line between dating and friendship was often blurred. everywhere we went, phones were glued to our heads. we've fallen asleep on the phone with each other. when she's at work, we talk on the phone during down time (she's a cell phone sales rep). if not there, we're on aim. so tho it may seem stalker-esque, i assure you talking to her in that way was totally in the norm of our everyday lives.
the fact that she lied to me was in her claims that she cared soooo much about me and that she wouldn't ever lie to me. i'm not sure how you value your friendships, and this is no way an attack on you, but i would never even lie to a regular acquaintance, let alone the person i claim to be my best friend.
our quirky friendship normally has been one where my business was hers and hers was mine. don't ask me why, it just is, that's why i said it was quirky. but it was great.
to further address the questions of others here. she had feelings for me before, but because i wasn't fully over my ex at the time, i opted not to pursue it for fear that i may be using her, subconsciously, as a rebound. i cared for her too much to hurt her. she isn't ugly, as a matter of fact, she's damn hot. she's dated guys while we were friends so her dating someone else shouldn't be an issue as i am not pursuing her and she's not obliging.
my b-day is at least 2 weeks away, so the sense of urgency can be ruled out. and in the past, plans for surprises were usually thwarted from questions by merely saying, 'don't ask'. which in this situation, would have been far better than flat out lying to me, imo.
i don't want to play chummy with her until past my b-day to see what kind of spectacle i get because that would be just using her. i'm not about to do that. that's not me and i'm not trying to make myself sound all righteous, but i don't see that as something i would allow myself to do.
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