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Rlyss · 07-17-2005, 08:51 AM

Hey everyone. I live in a flat with four others. Four of us work full-time, the other works three days a week. I was unemployed when I first moved in here so I spent a lot of time at home playing video games and stuff with the guy who works 3 days.

These days I work seven days a week for weeks on end and never get enough sleep. My job involves helping people with special needs and I'll often do 12 hour shifts without a break. I'm also about the most solitary person you could ever meet, but I enjoy my job.

Anyway, the days of video games and hanging out meant that a closed door just meant 'Knock and come in after a second' in our flat/apartment. These days when I come home from work I want to grab a beer or two, sit on my ass in my room and check my e-mail, the forums, maybe watch a DVD and then go to bed. If I'm not working on a weekend I'm up for going out, but if I'm working the next day I'd rather just have those few hours to myself.

Since this guy only works 3 days a week he is usually home alone. When I come home I have enough time to go to grab a beer and sit down at my computer, then the knock on the door, he comes in and sits down and wants to chat. It's like clockwork - the beer is opened and so is my door.

My question is, how do I go about changing the door policy, to one that says 'A closed door means don't bother me', and how do I explain that I just want the evenings to myself without coming across as an asshole? I'm all for chatting if we're in the loungeroom or kitchen, but if I'm in my room I'd rather be left alone.

(Please don't say I shouldn't have moved into a flat with four other students and not expected this, I like it here and the flatmates are cool, location is great, etc.)

07-17-2005, 08:51 AM	#1 (permalink)
Rlyss The Pusher Location: Edinburgh	Flatmate problem, no time alone Hey everyone. I live in a flat with four others. Four of us work full-time, the other works three days a week. I was unemployed when I first moved in here so I spent a lot of time at home playing video games and stuff with the guy who works 3 days. These days I work seven days a week for weeks on end and never get enough sleep. My job involves helping people with special needs and I'll often do 12 hour shifts without a break. I'm also about the most solitary person you could ever meet, but I enjoy my job. Anyway, the days of video games and hanging out meant that a closed door just meant 'Knock and come in after a second' in our flat/apartment. These days when I come home from work I want to grab a beer or two, sit on my ass in my room and check my e-mail, the forums, maybe watch a DVD and then go to bed. If I'm not working on a weekend I'm up for going out, but if I'm working the next day I'd rather just have those few hours to myself. Since this guy only works 3 days a week he is usually home alone. When I come home I have enough time to go to grab a beer and sit down at my computer, then the knock on the door, he comes in and sits down and wants to chat. It's like clockwork - the beer is opened and so is my door. My question is, how do I go about changing the door policy, to one that says 'A closed door means don't bother me', and how do I explain that I just want the evenings to myself without coming across as an asshole? I'm all for chatting if we're in the loungeroom or kitchen, but if I'm in my room I'd rather be left alone. (Please don't say I shouldn't have moved into a flat with four other students and not expected this, I like it here and the flatmates are cool, location is great, etc.)