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Originally Posted by shakran
Read that part twice, because it's the most important thing to remember. You're the parent. You're directly responsible for anything your did does until he's an adult. The kid has no expectation of privacy. Any you grant him, he has to earn.
Now you've caught him surfing to places he shouldn't be. He's not earned any privacy.
I wouldn't go behind his back in installing the software - - he doesn't need to think of you as the spook. Tell him upfront. I'm installing the software. If I catch you going to these sites again, I'm removing the computer.
And then you'll need to check his computer quite often because kids are almost always better than parents with technology. My parents used to lock the computer on me when they weren't around (this was long before the days of monitoring software  - - -too bad they never knew I knew how to bypass the lock. Your kid will probably have the software bypassed an hour after you install it |
that's the key right there....
SET the expectation.
HOLD them accountable to the expectation.
FOLLOW thru with the consequences of not living up to the expectation.
If you have ANOTHER computer in the house, you can setup VNC or Timbuktu to actively watch while they are online. which CANNOT be bypassed or removed if you've set it up correctly. You can also set up expectations and rules that if the monitoring software is tinkered with or not capturing data consistently... then that's same consequence as having visited questionable sites.
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